Conflict isn't the problem. Avoiding it usually is.
When tension shows up in a team, a congregation, a family, or a partnership, it often points at something that matters. I help people slow down, listen well, and move toward decisions they can stand behind.
Start a conversationHow I can helpDisagreement is information about what people value, fear, and need.
Engaged with care and structure, conflict can deepen trust, clarify purpose, and lead to better outcomes than silence ever could. The goal isn't to make tension disappear. It's to help it become something healthier.
Support that fits where you are
Not sure which fits? That's a common starting point, and we can sort it out together.
Mediation
A neutral, structured space for two or more parties to talk through a dispute and reach their own agreement.
Conflict Coaching
One-on-one support to prepare for a hard conversation, understand your patterns, and respond with clarity.
Group Facilitation
Guided meetings and discernment processes for teams and communities facing complex or divided decisions.
Training & Workshops
Practical skills for leaders and groups: listening, difficult conversations, and a healthier culture of disagreement.
Conflict shows up everywhere. So does the chance to engage it well.
Conflict exists in every sphere of life: workplaces, families, friendships, neighborhoods, boards, and congregations. What it means to engage it well depends on the context. A team under deadline pressure, a family facing change, and a community making a shared decision each have different relationships, norms, and stakes.
I start by understanding yours, then shape the process to fit.
- Workplaces and teams
- Nonprofits, boards, and community organizations
- Congregations and faith communities
- Small businesses and partnerships
- Families, neighbors, and individuals facing a difficult relationship
Simple, clear, and at your pace
Talk
A no-pressure conversation to understand what's happening and whether I'm the right fit.
Plan
Together we choose an approach and outline what the process will look like, including time and cost.
Engage
We do the work: listening, clarifying, and building toward agreements or decisions that hold.
Hi, I'm Ben
Conflict has a way of showing up where it matters most. As an ordained minister since 2008, I've been invited into some of the most intimate circumstances of conflict in people's lives. Once invited in, my work is to listen closely, make room for what each person is carrying, and help them find a way through that honors what matters most to them. As a real estate professional since 2019, I've helped clients negotiate conflicts that touched not only their ideals of home, but also family, dreams, and security.
These experiences led me to pursue a graduate certificate in Conflict Resolution and Negotiation from Creighton University, so I could refine my skills as a conflict practitioner and help people traverse the conflict that shows up in life. Together with a background in philosophy, it shapes how I work: ask good questions, sit with the hard ones, and trust that people are often more capable of working things out than they realize. I'm based in Colorado Springs, and my role is to help create the conditions where that can happen.
Things people often wonder
Is this only for serious disputes?
No. Many people reach out early, when something feels tense but hasn't broken. Early conversations are often the easiest.
Do all parties have to agree to take part?
Mediation and facilitation work best when participation is voluntary. If the other person isn't ready, coaching can still help you prepare and respond well.
How is confidentiality handled?
We talk through confidentiality and ground rules at the start, so everyone knows what to expect before anything is shared.
Can you work within a faith community?
Yes. I'm glad to work in ways that respect your community's values, traditions, and ways of making decisions.
Let's talk about what's going on
Share a few words about your situation. There's no obligation, and I'll reply within a couple of business days.
Email: ben@attendconflict.com